To love without giving up parental authority. To educate without power struggles. To build a marriage and family based on trust, respect and cooperation.
But life doesn't always unfold as we imagined. We find ourselves arguing, disappointed, or reacting in ways we never meant to choose. And it's easy to believe that change depends on the person in front of us.
But what if
we can influence our reality without trying to change them?
The Shefer approach teaches us to pause, notice what's happening in our relationships, and see how the way we read a situation shapes how we feel and react.
See what's really going on between you and the people you love.
Focus on the part that is yours, where real change is possible.
Respond the way you really want to, in every situation.
Because we care so deeply, we sometimes find ourselves explaining again and again, arguing, or losing confidence in our way. I guide parents to lead with confidence, without turning every challenge into a struggle.
A parent doesn't need to be perfect. A parent needs to learn to stand confidently in their role.
Break out of the same arguments and build a marriage based on trust, respect and cooperation.
Honor your parents while keeping a warm, meaningful connection with them. For groups, schools and communities.
Face everyday parenting with peace of mind and ease, from home, together with a small group of parents.
Join the introductory class at no cost and see if it's right for you.
Ask Sara about the next start date.
This course makes me feel like I shed 20 lbs of baggage.
So many years of therapy couldn't give me the understanding and the privilege of allowing me to change my perspective. Suddenly my childhood doesn't seem all that hard, and I'm able to view things from a different angle that doesn't bring up anger and resentment. I'm so grateful it's not too late and I'm able to remedy my relationship with BOTH my parents. I have no complaints on the course, it was perfect bh!
The Kibbud Av Va'em classes were eye-opening.
I feel blessed to have been given new awareness and perspectives. I have newfound feelings of peace and flow with my parents. Thank you Sara!
A parenting method that is so simple and from a Torah'dig perspective. Honestly, it changed my life in the best way possible.
There is so much noise out there regarding parenting, so many books, methods, ideas, but none really focus on the parent-child dynamic the way Shefer does, and that really is the KEY.
I had such a rough morning. I was able to remember what I learnt from the course and it really held me together, bh!
If not for this my whole day would've been over and off track.
Questions like “am I too strict?” or “should I allow this or that?” fall away.
I had the opportunity to take the Shefer course with Sara Holtsberg. It offers a practical and positive approach that makes it so much easier to understand what effective parenting looks like. We all want our children to grow up to be healthy adults who will iyH one day be parents themselves, and we all want to be the best parent we can be. With Hashem's help, Shefer puts you on a solid path towards these goals!
I help people discover the strengths within them and see their relationships from a new perspective.
A short, free intro call to find the right place to start. No pressure, and everything stays confidential.